Researchers Simine Vazire and Erika Carlson explore this self-defining issue in an article published in the Current Directions in Psychological Science. (This study is actually a follow up to their 2010 study which was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology).
In their 2011 piece, Vazire and Carlson suggest others have a better picture of who we are than we do. Why? Apparently we have a blind spot that is a result of what they refer to as “motivated cognitive process” in other words at some level we are motivated to not see all that we are. Those motivations can be conscious or unconscious, seen or hidden.
They suggest that we have a better concept of who we are internally, meaning we can tell what’s going on inside whether anger, anxiety or optimism. On the other hand, others have a better view of the external picture of us. For example, a good friend may tell you that you give off a confident energy when you may not believe that you do. According to this research your friend is probably right. But they are probably not picking up on what is going on inside you – all of that anxiety behind the confidence. This doesn’t mean the confidence is not there. It means that both are present and part of your experience.
Vazire research shows that across the board, others are able to give accurate impressions of one another: but here are exceptions.
How you talk can make or break you. In fact, there is an entire science devoted to improving face-to-face communication – and it suggests that flawed communication is a major source of relationship distress and demise.
In Is Your Communication Style Affecting Your Relationship for Better or for Worse?, Dr. Sherrie Bourg Carter suggests that conversational styles and patterns in relationships are a major source of clandestine stress. Dr. Bourg Carter contends that many relationships and communications involve parties who are essentially speaking “a different language” depending on their level of directness, assertiveness, and compassion.
Dr. Bourg Carter is among many psychologists who suggest the importance of effective face-to-face communication for relationships and interpersonal fulfillment. It’s long been suggested that communication depends on the on “skill sets” or “talk habits” in one’s conversational repertoire.
In The Talk Book: The Intimate Science of Communicating in Close Relationships, author Dr. Gerald Goodman explores the skill sets needed for improved communication, transformed relationships, and fulfilled interpersonal relations. Dr. Goodman purports that changing six talking habits will transform all facets of your life.
Here’s some suggestions:
A new organizational framework was announced for the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). Published by the American Psychiatric Association, it’s the book doctors look at to decide if you’re crazy and what medicine to prescribe for it. It may or may not be accurate – but it’s a big deal.
The newest version, now scheduled for May 2013, is proposing to restructure previous categories and chapters to reflect scientific advancements and hypothesized.
Sounds good, but there’s one big problem: the DSM has always been flawed, and the proposed DSM-5 looks to be no better.
The flaw is that it tries very hard to figure out symptoms, but no time at all trying to understand people.
There’s no empirical validation to this approach … and it’s packed with conflicts of interest to the drug companies who benefit each time a new symptom is deemed “treatable” by drugs.
Have you ever wondered what that’s like?
Hearing voices or “auditory hallucinations” is the one aspect that
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Alumnus Robert E. McCarthy, PhD '03 Recently Appointed to the National Executive Advisory Board of the American Psychotherapy Association.05/04/2011
Alumnus Robert E. McCarthy, PhD '03 was recently appointed to the National Executive Advisory Board of the American Psychotherapy Association.
Alumna Jean Millay, PhD '78 was Invited to Discuss Her New Book at the Foundation for Mind/Being Research05/04/2011
Saybrook graduate Jean Millay, PhD ('78) was invited to discuss her book -RADIANT MINDS: Scientists Explore the Dimensions of Consciousness - at the April 22nd meeting of the Foundation for Mind/Being Research. www.fmbr.org The book is an Anthology of the Parapsychology Research Group, with 55 authors participating. Jean's main topic involved the suggestion that there may be a 5th...
Alumnus Ken Bausch, PhD 1998, of the Institute for 21st Century Agoras Shares Four Announcements · Ken Bausch, PhD announces the Third International Facilitators Training School on the Structured Dialogic Design Process will be held July 25-27 in Nicosia, Cyprus. Click here to see the announcement: www.sddp-international.org · Ken taught a second annual online course...
Saybrook Almnus Kirk Schneider, PhD '84 Publishes The Great Awe-Wakening in the Tikkun Network Journal Click here to view: http://www.tikkun.org/nextgen/the-great-awe-wakening
Emotions have run high since United States president Barack Obama announced the death of Osama bin Laden.
“The head of the snake is gone,” said Rudi Dekkers, the owner of the flight school that trained the two terrorist pilots responsible for killing thousands in the World Trade Center towers.
Bin Laden’s death marks a turning point of nearly a decade of grief, anger, and insecurity for all effected by the tragedies of 9-11. The tragic events of that day will forever be present as a reminder and a threat of the destructive capacities of terrorism.
But always remembering must not mean we stay locked in the past: Amidst great pain and fear, issues of remorse, forgiveness, and rehumanization are beginning to surface in light of the gross human rights violations that followed September 11, 2001.
In the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, author Pumla Gobodo-Madikizela draws on experiences from the South African apartheid to remind us what remorse, forgiveness and rehumanization look like in the aftermath of gross human rights violations.