“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself,” states Anna Quindlen, best selling author and winner of the Pulitzer Prize for Commentary.
It’s ok to make mistakes. Stop striving for perfection.
Easier said than done, I know. We have a strange relationship with the need to be perfect. In society, children are told its ok to make mistakes. But not adults. As soon as we join the “real world,” mistakes stop being okay.
Well, new literature suggests that mistakes ARE ok – even for adults. In fact, they can help facilitate growth and it might just well be the foundation of psychological health.
Author Leon Seltzer explores the evolution of self and personality in Self-Sabotage and Your "Outer Child" speaking to an “outer-child” in adult personalities that is characterized by impulsivity, carelessness and limitlessness. The Outer Child, Seltzer points out, acts impulsively out of a need for instant gratification from tension, anxiety and other negative feelings. Its motto: at all costs – avoid pain, pursue pleasure.
Sounds good – but there’s an inherent problem in instant gratification.
Turns out, it makes us feel worse about ourselves. Sure, we feel better in the moment, our tension relieved (or at least ameliorated). But eventually we feel worse about ourselves because we’ve sacrificed our values, wishes, or ethics to the moment. It’s self indulgence at its most unhealthy level, and for it we sacrifice our deepest need, self-nurturance.
You wake up in the morning after spending the night sleeping in your car. Your two children are awake in the back seat and both are looking pretty hungry, although they’ve learned that food may not around today. How do you feel at this moment?
You’d probably the same way that many people who are living at or below poverty level are feeling everyday; stressed, anxious, depressed and possibly even suicidal.
A report in the April issue of the Archives of General Psychiatry by Dr. Jitender Sareen and others presents data from a 3 year study citing the connection between poverty and mental disorders. This isn’t news, there has been a considerable amount of research on this issue, but it is further proof that there is a clear relationship between having basic needs go unfulfilled and anxiety, substance abuse, and psychological pain.
According to this report the participants with a household income of less than $20,000 annually had a greater risk for experiencing mood disorders, depression and anxiety. The risk was much lower for those with incomes higher than $70,000.
The federal government has a great plan to address mental health needs - but do they have the right model?04/06/2011
Last month the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) published its strategic initiatives paper for its roles and actions for 2011-2014. The paper includes the focus, goals, and action plan for carrying out its mission—of reducing the impact of substance abuse and mental illness in American society.
From months of public discussion and stakeholder contributions, eight strategic initiatives have resulted—on how to best utilize SAMHSA’s resources and improve the behavioral healthcare system in America. It’s focus? The Mental Health Parity, Addiction Equity Act and the Affordable Care Act—to put mental healthcare and substance abuse recovery on equal footing with all other physical aliments.
The initiatives include the following:
Ohio State University, Mershon Center for International Security Studies Postion Available: Chair in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution Applicants should submit a letter of interest, current curriculum vitae, and the names of three references to email@example.com. Questions should be directed to Courtney Sanders, Peace Chair Search, Mershon Center for International Security Studies, 1501...
Age of Empathy: New Views of Health, Human Nature, and Relational Creativity with Saybrook Faculty Member, Ruth Richards, M.D., Ph.D. The Ahimsa TTT Series - Tea and Talk on Tuesdays May 17, 2011, 7:30 PM Berkeley Buddhist Monastery 2304 McKinley Avenue Berkeley, CA 94703 Near Berkeley Bart and Berkeley High School This talk highlights empathy as an essential yet often unsung human quality...
Alumna Jennifer Achord Rountree and Faculty Member Marc Pilisuk Announce Book Releases: Who Benefits From Global Violence and War: Uncovering a Destructive System by Marc Pilisuk with Jennifer Achord Rountree. Westport, CT: Greenwood/Praeger 2008 Peace Movements World-wide (3 volumes) Marc Pilisuk and Michael Nagler (Eds) Praeger/ABC-clio. Santa Barbara, CA: 2011 Titles are available from...
Faculty Position Open in Peace and Conflict Studies at Conrad Grebel University College at the University of Waterloo, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada04/05/2011
Conrad Grebel University College (a Mennonite College at the University of Waterloo, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada) invites applications for a full-time continuing contract faculty position in the undergraduate Peace and Conflict Studies (PACS) program and the proposed graduate PACS program, with a teaching and research specialty in interdisciplinary and multi-sector approaches to peace studies. A...
A new Psychology Today blog entry from Kirk Schneider, PhD '84 Thoughts on an Awe-Inspiring Career in Counseling http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/awakening-awe/201102/thoughts-awe-inspiring-career-in-counseling Kirk J. Schneider, Ph.D. Website: http://www.kirkjschneider.com firstname.lastname@example.org
Alumna Teresa Bailey, PhD '96 published an article in Child Neuropsychology, the only peer-reviewed journal devoted exclusively to child and adolescent developmental neuropsychology. Her lead article was an invited review. Its focus is a description of central auditory processing in children and adolescents, how children with auditory processing disorders can be misdiagnosed with attention...