“I have a pretty good marriage,” author Elizabeth Weil wrote late last year in the New York Times. “It could be better.”
It was the first line in an article about how she and her husband tried to improve their marriage – which they were already pretty happy with – through therapy. It didn’t work out.
“My marriage was good,” she writes, “utterly central to my existence …” until therapy. As therapy went on, things changed.
“Over the months Dan and I applied ourselves to our marriage, we struggled, we bridled, we jockeyed for position. Dan grew enraged at me; I pulled away from him,” she writes. “I learned things about myself and my relationship with Dan I had worked hard not to know.”
In the end, they decided to abandon therapy, and the idea of marriage improvement, and settle for a “good enough marriage.” Weil is now working on a memoir about marriage improvement.
Since the article was published, it’s been the subject of ongoing conversation. What happened? What does her experience say about therapy … and about marriage?
Actually very little, says Ann Bernhardt, who directs the Marriage and Family Therapy program at Saybrook’s Graduate College of Psychology and Humanistic Studies. Reading Weil’s article, she wasn’t reminded of any therapy sessions she’s seen … but she was reminded of an article she read that came out on the same day.
It was about the White House dinner crashers.
As a doctoral student in Education Law and Policy studies, there was no need for Vince Pellegrino to push any boundaries with his dissertation. He could have done something rote, conservative, and safe.
Instead, he found himself working on a qualitative, humanistic, study of symbolic language in the civil rights movement, viewed through a feminist perspective.
“Plato describes the context for learning as other people, because learning involves understanding, deeply understanding, what other people mean,” Vince says. “So I examined speeches from the civil rights era to capture the context of meanings about words used like color or gender, and the symbolic issues they raised during that time.”
Why did he do it? Why did he go so far out of his way to write a dissertation that involved qualitative research and potential political ramifications?
“It was having good faculty members push me along to do deep exploration of my topic, and at the end still love it, not hate it,” he says. “That made all the difference. I value that engaged learning, and the way it was made available to me.”
Today Vince Pellegrino is Saybrook’s Interim Vice President of Academic Affairs, and he says the experience of his dissertation helps him understand the value of Saybrook’s values, and its model of education.
The Saybrook community will gather together to formally celebrate the inauguration of the new Saybrook University at this week's Residential Conference.
Come join the festivities at the Bayshore Ballroom of the Westin San Francisco Airport Hotel from 7 - 10 p.m, on Friday, January 15.
Look for the balloons - along with your friends and colleagues.
The economy is still in a shambles after many of the world’s most prominent firms engaged in financial shenanigans that a sixth grader could see through – so maybe we shouldn’t be surprised by a new study showing that there’s a strong correlation between a corporation’s prominence and its willingness to break the law.
The study is presented in the Academy of Management Journal. Of the 469 incidents of illegal activity sampled in the study, 382 (81 percent) were committed by firms on Fortune magazine’s “Most Admired Companies” list and were considered “high performing.”
Why? According to a review of the study “It's not that poor firms necessarily have more scruples or that prominent, high-performing companies are inherently evil (or that Fortune magazine is playing a cruel joke on its readers), but that management teams at more prominent firms feel more pressure to do something — anything — to increase the bottom line and maintain their preeminent position.”
It is, in other words, the nature of the system: the more successful a company is, the more it’s pressured to outperform expectations, and that leads to increasing pressure to cut moral corners.
Marvin Brown, a respected business ethicist and member of Saybrook’s Graduate College of Psychology and Humanistic Studies Organizational Systems faculty, says that the very foundation of capitalism as we understand it – going back to Adam Smith – involves turning a blind eye to the ethical questions involved in corporate success.
There may never have been a worse time to grow old than the 21st century.
That’s the contention of MIT computer scientist Philip Greenspun, who recently suggested in his blog that a combination of modern technology and new prejudices “reduces the value of old people.”
“An old person will know more than a young person, but can any person, young or old, know as much as Google and Wikipedia?” Greenspun asks. “Why would a young person ask an elder the answer to a fact question that can be solved authoritatively in 10 seconds with a Web search?”
Worse is the fact that the skills that it takes a lifetime to develop are now rendered obsolete within years by new innovations in technology – meaning that the young often know more than the elderly about how to get by in the world. This, Greenspun suggests, has never before happened in human culture.
As for wisdom? Greenspun doesn’t discount it, but says that there’s a paradox here: “Unfortunately, the young people who are most in need of an elder’s wisdom are the least likely to realize it.” The end result is the same: this is a terrible time to grow old.
Doris Bersing, a psychology faculty member with Saybrook’s Graduate College of Psychology and Humanistic Studies, doesn’t disagree with that basic conclusion, but thinks Greenspun has left one critical element out of the equation: the elderly themselves.
Even if a young person wanted to receive guidance from knowledgeable elders – and don’t be mistaken, many of them do – where would they find one? How would they connect? Too often, they can’t.
If you need a reason to get involved in your community, there are dozens.
Studies show that people who are civically engaged tend to be healthier and happier and feel a greater sense of purpose and connection to their community.
Communities where people are engaged tend to be more resilient, prosperous, and safe – not to mention democratic.
So why do so few people get involved?
There is good news: a recent article in Miller-McCune notes that some local governments have recently seen strong results from programs designed to foster civic engagement. Even so, levels of participation in civic organizations and community groups … let alone just doing good for one’s neighbors … appears to be at an all time low. Can this trend be turned around?
The new Saybrook University website launched this week, and with it a single sign on process for:
• The password protected side of the website
• Student Gmail.
Extension of the single sign on process to MyLearning is anticipated to be completed shortly thereafter.
The primary Saybrook URL address, www.saybrook.edu has not changed. However, any URL addresses to specific pages on the old Saybrook Graduate School and LIOS websites will no longer work because the new website employs a new technology platform and the organization and presentation of website content has changed substantially.
Feel free to send feedback on the new site to Forum@saybrook.edu.
We’ve come a long way: Join us at a party to honor and celebrate the new Saybrook University on Friday, Jan. 15, at 8 p.m., during the Graduate College of Psychology and Humanistic Studies Residential Conference, in the main ballroom at the Westin San Francisco Airport Hotel.
Dessert and Champagne will be served, and there will be music and dancing until 11.
Save the date: Saybrook Graduate College of Psychology and Humanistic Studies adjunct faculty member Linda Riebel will be speaking at the Say Francisco Public Library about her new book The Earth Friendly Food Chain.
A look at the dangers of the industrial food system and the exciting world of healthy, sustainable food, The Earth-Friendly Food Chain describes five key decisions readers can make to protect the earth and their own health.
The presentation is free and open to the public.
What: Linda Riebel, discussing The Earth Friendly Food Chain
When: Tuesday, December 15, at 6 pm.
Where: San Francisco Public Library (main), 100 Larkin Street at Grove Street (near Civic Center BART).
It’s a time of transition and expansion at Saybrook University, and the Saybrook University Forum is no exception: by this time next month, we’ll have undertaken a redesign including a new look and new sections.
That’s only the beginning: we intend to just keep getting better. Long term, expect new ways of organizing content, more frequent articles, and in-depth looks at subjects that members of the Saybrook community are passionate about.
But before we start, we’d like to get your input: What kind of content would you like to see represented here? What subjects would you like us to cover? Are there any new features you’d like to see?
How can we make the Forum better for you?
Let us know by emailing Forum@saybrook.edu.