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“Pretty attracts us. Beauty changes us. Be a force of beauty” --Bare Escentuals I was walking through Macy’s and saw a box with this written on it and the words arrested my attention. I paused, pondered, and snapped a photo so as not to forget the message. I started to think…what would a force of beauty look like in today...
I cleaned my daughter's closet tonight. She'll be 2 in December but has already outgrown her 2T and is on to bigger and better clothes. My son is not yet 4 and wears 5/6. Maybe only a parent will understand this but I think anyone who has ever realized just how FAST time goes will know what I mean when I say that I was a little embarrassed...
Photo by the New York World Telegram and Sun.
I grew up as a young girl in a small town in Southern Colorado. There, we were one of very few Hispanic families, and I was extremely aware of how different I was—my dark brown, almost black hair, stood out like a sore thumb amongst the sea of light brown and blondes around me. My dark olive skin that quickly tanned in the summer was...
One of the dictates of our day is to “do your best.” We encourage children, students, athletes, and employees to do their best. We console ourselves after a loss that we “did our best.” While “doing your best” can often be honorable and true, there are many times that doing our best is not enough, and as Winston...
Photo by Chelsea Kennedy.
My six-year-old son got his first pedicure this last weekend. He was with three women at the nail shop, and initially, he decided against the pedicure but quickly grew bored with his video game and elected to join us. He chose blue for his nail color. Since then, he’s scarcely noticed the color and hasn’t even mentioned it but I am...
Lately, I’ve been tossing around the idea of Existential Parenting—that is, parenting from an existential philosophical base that, ideally, will instill a sense of existentialism in children as they grow. It is my belief that children who are raised in such a way will be better prepared for the challenges and joys of living as they are...
As the mother of two young children, I am much more aware of the new children’s movies that come out. Most recently, I took my kids to see The Croods, an animated film about a “cave family” facing the end of the world, as they know it. The movie is really quite good and addresses many existential themes but has one major flaw...
A good friend of mine recently commented that she had always known I was bigger than my surroundings. This comment struck a chord with me in a much deeper way than it had before. I paused and reflected on my life, and recalled how, as a young woman, I was filled with self-doubt, lacked confidence, and had a very negative self-perception. I often...
Photo by Aaron Tang.
I was in Boston this last Sunday and barely made it to the airport in time for my flight…the last one to leave Logan International to Denver. I was literally minutes away from being stranded but thought, on the bright side, if I did get stuck there, I would at least be able to watch some of the Boston Marathon. I did make my flight and was...
Photo by Steve Ryan.
This past weekend, the area I live in was hit pummeled with a snowstorm. The flakes were big, wet, and heavy, and quickly covered the ground and streets around my home. I was inside, warm and comfortable, and watching the snow piling up when I heard something that startled me out of my relaxed state. Outside, in the midst of this freezing, snowy...
Madonna with Donor and St Mary Magdalene.
Women and sexual behavior is a topic that greatly fascinates many in our society. In the last 50 years, we have been witnessing an ongoing sexual revolution for women. Women have increasingly rejected the roles that have been cast on them by society and have taken a much more liberated stance to their sexuality. In the 80's, Madonna shocked...
Conference participants at Pacifica.
The Society for Humanistic Psychology is convening this weekend at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara, CA. Hundreds of people are gathering to learn about the latest research, share their findings, reconnect with old friends, and make new connections. As with many conferences, there will be a buzz generated, excitement will flow, and for...