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Dogs and Existential Psychology

Posted on 02 Jun | 2 comments
Dogs and Existential Psychology

Dog lovers know that picking a breed is often an important part of responsible pet ownership. It also says a lot about ourselves and can be a source of self-awareness. Choosing a pet that is a good fit is important for the family as well as for the dog. Too often, a wrong match can lead to the pet being mislabeled as a “bad dog” or not having the life that they deserve.

Dogs and Spirituality
People have often scoffed when I have said that dogs are an important part of my spirituality. I am a dog lover. I enjoy their companionship and have fun playing with dogs, but it is more than that for me. My first dog was a Siberian Husky, and my current dog is an Alaskan Malamute. These are beautiful dogs. When watching them run or pull, looking into their eyes, or being out in nature with them, I am so often amazed that these beautiful creatures have such strong human connections.

My relationship with my dogs has helped me stay connected to nature and to the earth. They remind me that we are connected with something more than ourselves and more than our species.  To love and be loved in this way is powerful.

Siberian Huskies: An Existential Breed
I had been drawn to the northern breeds, particularly Siberian Huskies, since I was a child. However, I did not get my first dog, Amaya, until I was in graduate school. We had a very deep bond, one that some of my friends and family found strange and were even critical of at times.

I learned a lot from Amaya, which I began to recognize increasingly as I used her more and more to illustrate aspects of psychotherapy. She was, in ways, a therapist and even mentor to me. She was with me through many difficult transitions in my life, including several major moves, the ending of a long-term relationship, and the loss of some people very close to me. She also was a muse, of sorts, as she served as inspiration for some lectures, professional writing, and poetry.

Over time, I began to reflect upon what drew me to the breed of Siberian Huskies. As I did, I realized that huskies tended to share many qualities of my own temperament and personality. Also, I think they represent qualities common in existential psychology.

First, Siberian Huskies are known for being pack animals, but they are also quite independent and stubborn. In this way, they provide a balance to the being a-part-of and apart-from that Bugental (1999) speaks to. Although existential psychology is often misperceived as being highly individualistic, this is not necessarily so. While some existentialists represent a more extreme individualist perspective, there tends to be a strong relational focus that balances the individualist tendency.

Amaya was a very stubborn dog. She quickly learned many commands, but she decided when she wanted to respond to them and when she would ignore them. But she was also a great companion and fiercely loyal. When I was going through a difficult period she always stayed close. Amaya was also protective, as a skunk who had the misfortunate showing an aggressive posture toward me discovered. That was not a pleasant lesson for any of us.

Huskies are considered a “working breed.” As someone who has often struggled with workaholic tendencies, this seemed fitting. Though Amaya was never trained to pull a sled or the roles often thought of with the working breed, some of the traits associated with this often showed in her perseverance.

Last, huskies are also known to be fairly intelligent and creative. In particular, they are known to be great escape artists and can be difficult to contain. Although Amaya did show that she could use these skills to get out on a few occasions, she used them more frequently to learn how to get inside as she learned to open a variety of doors over the years. Creativity, too, is a common theme in existential psychology.

While some of these qualities were frustrating at times, I also knew that they were a part of my deep love for Amaya. I did not want a dog that was completely compliant, nor did I want a dog that was aloof. Amaya had a personality and I wouldn’t have wanted to change this. This, too, I see as being very existential. While some approaches to psychology focus on trying to change people to better fit in, the existential approach tends to help people find out who they are and want to be. There were ways that Amaya conformed to my desires, but she was always herself, too.

Conclusion
When people speak of dogs and pets in such ways, it is common to hear some scoff that this is nothing more than projection. I suppose this is a possibility and I’m sure there are times when this is true. Yet, I think there is much we can learn and discover if we are open to learning from our pets. We can learn from their way of being, but we can also learn from our relationship with them and why we are drawn to loving them the way we do.

References
Bugental, J. F. T. (1999). Psychotherapy isn’t what you think: Brining psychotherapy engagement into the present moment. Phoenix, AZ: Zieg, Tucker, & Theisen.

-- Louis Hoffman

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I used to look at my dog and

I used to look at my dog and think "If you were a little smarter you could tell me what you were thinking," and he'd look at me like he was saying "If you were a little smarter, I wouldn't have to."
Fred Jungclaus

Hi Louis;
What a lovely piece, thanks for posting! The dog breeds of my life are the spaniels. I grew up with an American Cocker, have had up to 4 high-maintenance Cockers (at the same time), now have a scary-smart Cavalier King Charles mix, Daphne, who knows what I'm thinking before I think it. Cavaliers were bred by kings, and their ladies, to (literally) be lap dogs. And that's where Daph wants to be, if not there than on the couch, or bed, or chair, but always, always in the room with me. Charming, darling, and cute, she's my Best Girl.

I just completed my PhD dissertation at Saybrook University on the topic of telepathic interspecies communication. I conducted 50 animal communication sessions with guardians and their canines located in one of 36 different cities. Guardians were asked to rate three quantitative questions, then also rate the accuracy of the entire session on a 1 (entirely inaccurate) to 6 (entirely accurate) scale. Average accuracy rating across all 50 sessions was 5.12. Full dissertation will be published by ProQuest in a few weeks. A previously published article on this topic (reference below) is available on my site on ResearchGate.net.

I first saw this quote at the entrance to the Whale Museum in Friday Harbor, in the San Juan Islands, Washington. It stopped me in my tracks, and I developed my Ph.D. thesis around Beston's proposal:

"We need another and a wiser and perhaps a more mystical concept of animals. Remote from universal nature, and living by complicated artifice, man in civilization surveys the creature through the glass of his knowledge and sees thereby a feather magnified and the whole image in distortion. We patronize them for their incompleteness, for their tragic fate of having taken form so far below ourselves. And therein we err, and greatly err. For the animal shall not be measured by man. In a world older and more complete than ours they move finished and complete, gifted with extensions of the senses we have lost or never attained, living by voices we shall never hear. They are not brethren, they are not underlings; they are other nations, caught with ourselves in the net of life and time, fellow prisoners of the splendour and travail of the earth."
Beston, H. (1928). The outermost house: a year of life on the great beach of Cape Cod. Macmillan

Deborah Erickson, PhD
www.deborahericksonphd.com

Erickson, D. L. (2011). Intuition, Telepathy, and Interspecies Communication: A Multidisciplinary Perspective. NeuroQuantology, 9(1).

“Lots of people talk to animals,” said Pooh.
“Not very many listen, though, that’s the problem.”
Benjamin Hoff, The Tao of Pooh, pg. 29

This is a nice little article

This is a nice little article which says so much of what I've always thought too. I own a Tibetan Mastiff which is a very ancient breed, 3,000 years old and largely untouched by meddling human hands! It was bred to think for itself and doesn't readily surrender any decision taking. It's a huge dog with a large snow winter coat which it sheds in summer.

These animals have so much to teach me. Each day is a new day, every moment is as good as any other moment [yes they are buddhists], pain is inconvenient and passes, and they look at something each time with completely new ideas! They have a sense of humour which can be quite subtle.

What magical experiences I've had with the Tibetan Mastiffs I've owned over the past 20 years. Even when they become old and sometimes needed to be put down due to illness I made sure that the experience wasn't something new or worrying. They knew the vet, were familiar with going into a consult with him. And I knew that although they had gone physically, spiritually they are always present with me.

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