White picket fences….suburban windy roads…..and two Pamper smelling Gerber babies; add two parents and you have a family of four. Mom stays at home, practices attachment parenting and Dad leaves at eight each morning in his suit and returns promptly at five. Welcome to the modern idealized family: a figment of the imagination.
An estimated six-percent of families in the United States come from two parent single income households. Yet this is held as the gold standard for raising healthy, competent, and successful children. If, God forbid, a child struggles during his teenage years, poor mom’s “choice” to work is blamed.
A recent Wall Street Journal article highlighted the illusions inherent in the idealized version of the modern family. Poignantly coining the term Motherphillia, the article speaks to the delusion of motherhood and family life displayed on television, in the tabloids, and in society’s psyche. For all we think family life should be like a 21st century version of Ozzie and Harriet, the demands on mothers and fathers only seem to be growing, with the latest hip expectations of cloth diapers, homemade baby foods, and – the newest fad – attachment parenting.
Actually, though, that last one may not be so bad. Attachment parenting is new, but its roots go deep into efective, and humanistic, approaches to parenting.
All members of the Saybrook community are invited, and will receive an electronic invitation with additional information later this monthThe ceremony will begin at 11 a.m. at the Bentley Reserve (and be followed by an inaugural luncheon from noon to 1:30.
An academic colloquium with faculty presenters from the Saybrook University Colleges will take place after the luncheon and focus on humanistic values in higher education.
Bus transportation will be provided from the San Francisco Airport Westin Hotel to and from the Bently for the festivities.
In addition to the San Francisco event, other 40th anniversary inaugural events are being planned at Saybrook's other locations. Current planning envisages:
- An event in Seattle with LIOS Graduate College.
- An event in Washington, DC in conjunction with The Center for Mind-Body Medicine for the Graduate College of Mind-Body Medicine..
The leaders of nineteen of the world’s most powerful nations are meeting this week in North Korea at the G-20 summit. They’re negotiating about international financial stability, trade, currency, and shared responsibilities.
With the worst economic situation in decades tensions are high and risks are enormous, and the United States comes to the table after making new regulatory moves that have many nations concerned.
In the midst of international and domestic upheaval, great changes are undeniably warranted. The scary part is: summits like this are notorious for not accomplishing much. This morning, Time, released a report entitled “Pessimism pervades at the G-20 summit.” Scary, right? At a time like this, as a nation and a world we cannot afford “cat fights” between our most powerful leaders.
We should be able to do better, and there are ways we can – if we can admit that the old approaches to international cooperation are often ineffective and commit to a new approach.
Whether we talk about them or not, however, there are still many men and women who are overseas, entrenched in one of the most life altering events that we humans can put ourselves through – war. Life altering may be a slightly pacifying way to say traumatizing, and the experience in being in a war forever shapes an individual, their families and their futures.
While we’ve mostly put the troops in the field out of our minds, there have been more stories recently about returning troops: stories that reflect the potential struggles that loved ones, children, schools, businesses and entire communities must deal with when a soldier comes home. Today we as a nation seem far more conscious oandr aware of the psychological and social aftermath of combat. Their trauma is set to echo for generations as it did for the families and children of the previous U.S. wars.
Stories about soldiers who have committed suicide have been getting far more attention than they ever did in previous wars.
Researchers at the University of California, Davis and the University of California San Francisco have found a link between meditation practice and the long-term health – and the results are positive. The study “Intensive meditation training, immune cell telomerase activity, and psychological mediators” was published in the November 2010 issue of Psychoneuroendocrinology.
Meditation has been shown to reduce stress and an individuals’ ability to cope with stress. In the practice of meditation, we can gain greater insight into ourselves. We can see our anger, stress and pain alongside our joy and happiness. Thich Nhat Hanh (Thây) speaks about the practice of meditation as being a pathway to becoming more aware of who we are and who we are in relation to others and the world around us.Knowing who we are can lead us to understanding the presence of stress, anger and pain in our lives…and we can begin to move through it all with greater ease as the meditation practice continues. This leads back to the research.
How badly does the U.S. need to revamp its health care system? This badly: according to a recent report by the Commonwealth Fund, the United States was second to last in providing health care for its communities.
The rising numbers in obesity, heart attacks, strokes, and diabetes also make the case.
The report titled Mirror, Mirror On the Wall: How the Performance of the U.S. Health Care System Compares Internationally compared the health care systems of the United States and six other countries – Australia, Canada, Germany, the Netherlands, New Zealand and the U.K.
The rating system looked at five key areas of care, Quality, Access, Efficiency, Equity, Healthy lives. The U.S. health system ranked last in all but one area of the report; that was in the area of Quality. We were only slightly above Canada in this area.
The U.S. certainly spends money on health care: but spending may not be the answer.
A research study recently published in the New England Journal of Medicine found that spending on prescription drugs does not always lead to better health.
But now that a green revolution has started, what does it take for it to come to fruition?
Some excellent suggestions have been made for ways to help businesses adjust to environmental programs; to use local action as a springboard for global change; to green our supply chains; and how to talk about sustainability to non-environmentalists. New models of leadership have been proposed. These are practical and helpful: but so far, we’re all still “raising awareness,” not changing society’s paradigm. How do we take the green revolution from making people aware of their carbon footprint to getting them to take it as seriously as they do their gas mileage?
To see the full interview with early Saybrook/Humanistic Psychology Institute OS Pioneer, Jeff Stamps and his wife Jessica Lipnack, including the Forward, Introduction, and Interview, go to: http://www.saybrook.edu/sites/default/files/alumni/news/interview_stamps_lipnack.pdf
Statistically the odds are staggering: In the United States today, one in every five Americans is affected by mental illness. It is estimated that nearly half of the American population will be diagnosed with some psychiatric disorder in the course of their lifetime. According to the World Health Organization, mental illness is the second leading disease that affects people in working market economies around the world.
We are, without a doubt, the craziest culture in world history. At least if you go by the psychiatrists. With the increasing stress and pressures of the twenty-first century, the demands on our fragile human nature continue to increase. And so, the question becomes, as a society are we “mentally ill” or are we simply buckling under the pressures of everyday living?
The answer, according to psychiatrists and the pharmaceutical companies, is that half of us are suffering from chemical imbalances in the brain (that’s according to the classifications in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, or DSM-IV). Thus, psychiatric medications – with their debilitating effects – attempt to “fix” the chemical imbalances that result in psychiatric conditions.
Interesting, right? Plausible, not so much.
This is something that qualitative study has taught many people. Here’s a wonderful quote from a Facebook post by Psychologist Irving D. Yalom, (Yes, he has a Facebook page, you’re never too old to have one)
“On being seventy-nine. We dread the limitations and losses of old age. But an encouraging word about the positive aspects of aging: this may sound odd but the last decade has been the best one of my life. Gone are many of the anxieties of my earlier days and I’ve been able to bask in the sheer pleasure of being alive in the company of those I love.”
This lovely sentiment is now backed up by recent research.